Breaking Down Barriers and Developing Relationships

We want to thank the PTA and The Graded Fund for supporting Libby Stephens's visit to Graded. Libby was able to meet with students, teachers, counselors, administrators and parents during her three day visit. Libby provided us with valuable information on third culture kids and the discussion continues. You can see Libby's interview with Isabela Riechert and her Tuesday evening workshop with parents below.


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"Transition is not fun, but it is predictable" Libby Stephens

Libby Stephens met with parents today to discuss Third Culture Kids and transitions.

Photo by GABE ZSIGMOND

"Graded is a transition school"

"Saying "Goodbye"is a process...Not an event"

"The most difficult country for a student to move to is his/her passport country."

"Mom and Dad, don't mock the culture."

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The disease is curable but there are a few things to keep in mind.

• This is harder to address as the student gets older. 
• Procrastination includes putting off goodbyes.
• It's easier to leave a place if you're mad or upset with it. This becomes a coping mechanism. 

Reactions of the one who is left behind

• Betrayal - even when the student is not responsible for the decision to leave
• Grief - can be more difficult for the student who stays
• Relief
• Anger
• Excitement
• Enhancing Other Relationships

The "Rs" of Leaving Right

• Rites and Rituals
• Roles that they will give up (e.g. soccer player, student council representative)
• Responsibilities that will change
• Routines
• Relationships
• Residence
• Resources
• RAFT - 4 steps

R = Reconciliation - Who do you need to reconcile differences with before leaving?

A = Affirmation - Who are the important people who have been important to me while I was here?

F = Farewells - How will you say goodbye to the people, places, possessions, customs and traditions?

T = Think Destination and Expectations - How can you learn more about your new place?

Learn more about Graded's Third Culture Kids

Libby Stephens, Expert on Third Culture Kids Visits Graded (October 21 - 23)

Third Culture Kids

"A third culture kid is a person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside their parents’ culture. The TCK frequently builds relationships to all the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture may be assimilated into the TCK’s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background."

-Pollock & Van Reken

Libby Stephens will visit Graded on October 21 - 23 to work with parents, students, teachers and administrators. Ms. Stephens will meet with MS students during their Monday assembly and high school students on Tuesday. She'll also be meeting with individual classes throughout her three day visit. 

Faculty members will have the opportunity to meet with her after school on Monday after school. 

For parents, she will conduct two workshops on Monday morning and Tuesday evening. These meetings are for parents of students in all grade levels.

Monday, October 21 - 8:30 - 10:30 in the Black Box Theater

Tuesday, October 22 - 1930 - 2100 in the Auditorium.

We will be sharing more information prior to her visit but this short video will provide you with some basic information on Third Culture Kids.

Third Culture Kids - The Three Cultures from Libby Stephens on Vimeo.